City Nights and Solo Flights: Embracing Single Life and Preparing for What's Next
Introduction
Hi friends! I can't believe we're already nearing the end of summer. It feels like just yesterday I was writing about my plans to embrace single life in the city, and now, here we are, two months later, with a few weeks left to savour. Reflecting on it, it’s been a pretty successful summer. Much of my time was spent working at the mall or glued to my computer, tackling summer courses. I'm happy to say I completed my last final this week and am ready for a small (year-long) break before returning to full-time studies. As many of you might remember from my previous blogs, last summer was about finding myself. This summer was about owning my confidence, being unapologetically myself, and attracting those who share my vibe. I've loved spending time with friends I met in the city this year, reconnecting with friends who visited me from home, and making new connections on nights out.
Embracing Singleness in the City
Last summer, I was immersed in the magic of Walt Disney World, juggling late shifts at Magic Kingdom and making unforgettable memories with new friends. While it was an incredible experience, I had little time to live on my terms. This summer was different; it was my first real taste of independence, living alone, and figuring out who I am for myself. The freedom has been exhilarating, with no one keeping tabs on me. That’s the beauty of being single, having the space to be yourself, with no one questioning your choices or wondering what you’re up to. It's a joyous journey of self-discovery and empowerment, and I want to share this joy with you all.
One of the best parts of this summer has been my new sidekick, Moose! My dog has made living in Toronto on my own so much more secure and fun. He's always there, even if he isn’t thrilled when I roll in during the early morning hours after a night out. I joke with my friends that Moose will meet a few ‘dads’ until we find the right one. I'm not sure if you saw our famous TikTok, but Moose and I went viral this summer! We’re almost at 1.3 million likes because Moose insisted on visiting an ex’s apartment, only to discover that “old dad” wasn’t ready for a relationship. If only dogs could understand that not all men are what they seem! The funniest part? The guy blocked me after the video went viral. But on the bright side, it’s introduced me to some lovely guys who appreciate a girl and her dog’s time.
I’ve also been making the most of my time in the city, soaking up everything Toronto offers, from happy hours on patios to hitting the bars at night, catching Jays games, and meeting people in the craziest scenarios, like running into someone from my hometown that I’ve never met before. I'm always open to trying new things, whether spontaneous nights out or meeting new people. I’ve built a solid friend group I love going out with; they're single, too, so we have a blast together. They're a bit older, so they've taught me the dos and don’ts of city life and how to know our worth. We’ve had nights dancing on tables, running down the city streets at 4 a.m., and living life to the fullest.
This summer has been about embracing the freedom and empowerment of being single. I’ve used this time to focus on myself, rediscover my passions, and explore the city on my terms. Whether spontaneous adventures, late-night conversations, or new friendships, every experience has helped me grow and find joy in this chapter of my life.
Strengthening Connections and Expanding Horizons
Being single can sometimes feel lonely, but the strong foundation I've built with my friends reassures me that I won’t be alone forever. Embracing my independence and becoming more confident has drawn like-minded people into my life. I’ve realized that taking care of myself in all aspects empowers me to be selective about the relationships I choose, and only those that align with my future goals are worth my time and energy.
When a guy tells me he isn’t ready for a relationship or is seeing other people, I’m at peace with it. I know who I am, and I’m confident that people will value me for all I am without the need for competition or ego boosts. This summer, I’ve embraced spontaneity, gone out with no expectations, and danced freely, which led me to meet some incredible people. These encounters often sparked deep conversations about life goals and personal growth, which I value deeply. These conversations have inspired and motivated me, reminding me of the importance of meaningful connections in our lives, and I hope they inspire you too.
Being single has also given me the freedom to spend more quality time with my friends. I’ve had more “dates” with friends this summer than anyone else, and I wouldn’t trade that for the world. I love our girls’ nights (with a few close guy friends included) and treasure our deepened bonds. It’s comforting to know that I have a circle of people to lean on and share life with, no matter what.
Reflecting on these experiences, I see how they’ve shaped who I am today. It hasn’t been easy to open up to men, especially given my past experiences with sexual assault and emotional abuse. But I’m proud of my progress in allowing myself to be open to new relationships, something I couldn’t have imagined last year. Back then, I clung to relationships because they felt “safe,” but leaving them was the best decision for me. Taking risks, stepping out of my comfort zone, and meeting like-minded individuals have shown me that I have time to enjoy being young and, as my older friends remind me, to have fun. There’s lots of time for boy drama.
As I prepare for new solo adventures, I’m excited about the future and the connections yet to be made. The anticipation of what's to come is a thrilling part of the journey, and I can't wait to see where it leads. Stepping into this new chapter, I’m ready to embrace the unknown and welcome the opportunities ahead.
Preparing for Solo Adventures
Sitting on my bed on my last night in the big city, I’m filled with anticipation for what’s yet to come. There’s a sense of security within me now, a readiness for the challenges ahead. I’ve embraced the mindset of “let them,” understanding that you have to be your first priority at the end of the day. If you don’t love yourself fully, you can’t offer genuine love to others; instead, it reflects your insecurities and ego. It’s taken me time to reach this point, but the air is clearer now. I finally feel like I’ve found myself and am ready to take on whatever comes my way.
I’m setting off on my first solo trip to Europe this week, with Spain as my destination! Travelling has always been a passion of mine. I never grew up obsessed over a sport or playing an instrument; instead, I’ve always had an insatiable desire to see the world and try new things; try everything. This solo trip is a dream come true, and I know it’s just the beginning of many more adventures on my own. My last trip was to Cuba, where I met so many wonderful friends. I earned the nickname "the hub" because of how I brought everyone together, and it was so fulfilling to be that connection point. Just today, someone called me a "breath of fresh air," and when people give me those compliments, it means so much. I can’t wait to spread my love in other parts of the world and experience different cultures.
Travelling alone feels like a natural extension of the journey I’ve been on, embracing singleness and independence, learning to trust myself, and finding joy in my own company. Reflecting on my experiences in Toronto, from the spontaneous nights out to quiet moments of introspection, I realize how much this city has prepared me for this next significant chapter. I’ve honed my skills and built a strong sense of self, and now I’m ready to explore the world with an open heart.
After that, I’ll be gearing up for my big move to Florida once I return! Unlike last year, I have no fears about moving this time. Florida feels like home now. So many people I love, and cherished memories are tied to that place, and I can’t wait to create even more. With Moose by my side, I’m excited to spread the love and embrace this new chapter with familiar faces and new adventures. The journey from Toronto to Florida, with a detour through Spain, is one I’m eager to embark on. It’s a continuation of the themes that have defined my year: growth, discovery, and pursuing what makes me feel most alive.
Conclusion
Reflecting on this summer, I’m grateful for the journey I’ve been on: embracing singleness, deepening connections, and discovering more about myself. It’s been a season of growth filled with laughter, new memories, and a renewed sense of independence. As I embark on my solo trip to Spain and eventually move to Florida, I carry the lessons I learned and the confidence I gained from my time in the city. I’m excited about what’s ahead and open to the possibilities that await. Here’s to new adventures, cherished moments, and the thrill of what’s yet to come. Thank you for tagging along with me!
